How to design a point system

Creating a point system is a method to help you objectively assess the importance of potential wedding guests based on various criteria. It can assist you in prioritizing who should be on the official guest list and who should be on the backup list. Here's an example of how you can create and use a point system:

Step 1: Identify Criteria

Start by determining the criteria that are important to you and your partner in deciding the significance of a wedding guest. Common criteria may include:

Relationship with the couple: How close are you to this person?
Past involvement in your life: Have they been a consistent part of your journey?
Future involvement in your life: Do you see them playing a role in your future?
Shared memories and experiences: What meaningful moments have you shared?
Family ties: Immediate family, extended family, or distant relatives.
Friendships: Close friends, distant friends, acquaintances.
Social and cultural obligations: For example, cultural or religious traditions that dictate certain guest inclusions.
Contribution to wedding preparations: Bridesmaids, groomsmen, or those actively involved in planning.
Special circumstances: Unique situations like mentors, lifelong friends, or anyone with a remarkable connection.

Step 2: Assign Points

Next, assign points to each criterion to quantify their importance. You can set these points on a scale of, for example, 1 to 5, with 5 being the highest and 1 being the lowest. Here's an example:

Immediate family: 5 points
Close friends: 4 points
Extended family: 3 points
Coworkers: 2 points
Acquaintances: 1 point
Significant past involvement: 4 points
Likely future involvement: 3 points
Shared memories: 4 points
Cultural or religious obligation: 4 points
Contribution to wedding preparations: 5 points
Special circumstances: 5 points

Step 3: Calculate Total Points

For each potential guest, add up the points they score based on your criteria. For example, if you're considering inviting your cousin who is also your best friend, she might get:

Immediate family: 5 points
Close friends: 4 points
Significant past involvement: 4 points
Shared memories: 4 points
Contribution to wedding preparations: 0 points (if she's not involved)
Total points: 17 points

Step 4: Set a Threshold

You and your partner can establish a threshold or a total point value that guests must meet to make it onto the official guest list. Anyone who surpasses this threshold is considered a VIP, while those who fall below it can be placed on the backup list.

For example, if you decide that a total of 15 points or higher is necessary to be on the official guest list, your cousin and best friend would qualify, but others with lower scores would be on the backup list.

Using a point system can help you make more objective decisions about who to invite and ensure that those with the closest and most meaningful connections to you are prioritized. It's a helpful tool for managing a guest list when you have limited space or budget constraints.

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